Just Served

You’ve been served. Or she said the word. Or you both know it’s coming.

The next 90 days will shape the next eighteen years of your life as a father, and most men spend them doing exactly the wrong things. Not because they’re bad dads. Because nobody told them how the first three months actually work.

I’m a licensed therapist with twenty years in private practice, much of it in and around family court. I’ve sat in the witness chair. I’ve watched good fathers lose ground they never needed to lose. I’m also a divorced dad, and I’ve made some of these mistakes myself.

This book is the conversation I wish someone had had with me in the first week. It’s short on theory and long on what to do: what never to text, when not to move out, how to tell your kids, what to write down, what a judge actually notices, and how to keep yourself steady when it’s 3 a.m. and your phone is in your hand.

It is not legal advice. It’s the other half — the half your lawyer doesn’t have time to explain, and the half that decides how your children remember this year.